Every Day is Father's Day

Well, Father’s Day is a little over a week away, and I find for the first time in my entire life, to be without a father or a father figure.  Almost three years ago I lost my dad to Parkinson’s Disease.  And just a couple of months ago I lost my step-father to congestive heart failure.  These men couldn’t be more different if they tried.  But the one thing they had in common was their love and support of me. 

I’m struggling a little bit with the emotion of what it means to no longer have an earthly father. Is it weird that I have kept voicemails on my mobile phone so that I never forget what their voices sound like?  I don’t think so. I don’t listen to them often – less so as time passes, but it’s like they’re right here with me when I do listen.  

Dads mean so many different things to each of us.  Some of us have/had great relationships with our fathers.  Some not so much.  Maybe you didn’t know your father very well at all.  But these men leave their marks on us regardless of the type of relationship we had with them.  Neither my dad nor my step-father were overly “fuzzy” dads with me. I’m actually not very “fuzzy” myself – although I try to be with the people I love.  At different times in my life I saw one of these men less and one more – and then it would switch.  I think of all the Father’s Days that I missed with them.  After all…it’s just a day.  I frequently thought “next year.”  

There are lots of days in a year that we can honor that special “dad” in our life.  You just need to make sure you actually take the time to do that.  Father’s Day reminds us that there are special men in our lives, that we need to reach out and tell them how important they are to us, that we love them, that we need them, that we are thankful for them…we need to make sure that we don’t miss that opportunity.  Not just on Father’s Day, but every day.  Because time with them is a precious gift.  

So this Father’s Day – whether it’s your dad, a step-father, or any special man that fills the role of a “father” in your life – let them know how you feel.  Spend the day with them, send them a card or gift, call them – anything.  Just let them know.