A couple of weeks ago, Chris blogged about resolutions and about giving herself some grace about not quite being where she planned to be at the halfway mark of 2019. I can totally relate.
As some of you may recall, I moved from Atlanta, where I lived for 24 years, to the Florida coast, where I’m still trying to get myself settled.
Although this community has been my part-time home for the last two years, making our new place here FEEL like a home is a whole other ball of wax. We lived out of our smaller unit for 6 weeks while the painting and renovations were being done in our new place. So not only did we have one home in chaos, we had two. And after living in chaos for that last month in Atlanta…well, you get the idea.
I’ve been living, well sleeping at least, in my new place for the past two weeks. The beds are all made, but most of the common living spaces are an utter mess. I’m working hard to acclimate some of my life-long belongings into a completely new setting. Most of them just “don’t go.” But on the other hand, I don’t want to purchase more stuff just to fill up space, and there is a lot of space in this new space.
I think space can actually be a good thing. My old home was filled with memories from 24 years. I raised my kids in that place. And so many of my relationships and “stuff” were part of my old space. I miss some of my things. And I definitely miss my people…my kids and my friends. I even miss my small home here – it was perfect and I loved it. But my husband and I now have more space to live and grow our relationship in this new season of our lives. Space gives you room to breathe. If you leave enough space in your life, you’re more likely to really see the stuff that’s important to you – both the emotional and the physical stuff.
But there in lies the struggle. How do you make space for that new season while comfortably hanging on to the stuff that’s still so important to you? Getting rid of a lot of the old stuff can often leave you emotionally uncomfortable for a bit. But seeing things through new eyes and in a new environment leaves you room to grow.
I think I’ve come up with a plan. It’s going to take some time, but I know it will be good in the long run. Thankfully technology is around – so keeping in touch with my good friends isn’t so difficult. And I’m grateful that so many of them have/will come for a visit. And my kids are still in the Atlanta area, so when I see them I can also connect with so many of the people who have been so important to me over the last two plus decades. As a prior military wife, I used to be able to set up a home in a week or two. I was a total pro. But that stopped when we moved to Atlanta, and I’m out of practice. But I’ve decided to do what Chris is doing. I’m giving myself some grace. I’m giving myself the time, as much time as I need, to set this new place up. To “fiddle” till it feels like home. To be okay with the boxes and stuff and stuff and stuff that are literally everywhere at the moment. I’m going to give myself the SPACE to settle in at my own pace. I think it sounds like pretty great idea. What do you think?